"According to the survey: arranged marriage than free love marriage divorce rate low, so someone that- arranged marriage than free love of the happiness of marriage degree is high, such a conclusion". Then think of this statement at odds, but they didn't want to what it at odds in there. Today because of something, I suddenly thought of this problem, see the problem.
Below we from longitudinal and transverse two direction to illustrate the problem:
The longitudinal: thousands of years in China feudal society of China people's thoughts in a conservative state, more people can't, when not good at to express his thoughts and feelings. Our father in love time perhaps even a "I love you" are not said. It is this reason, even if their marital problems, they may choose to "accept, silent, his presidency. Think about China's first caused a sensation of divorce together, s ~ s divorce of people affected by the frowns of, innumerable imperative to persuade "we do not have a divorce precedent", then how dare mention "divorce" 2 words. With the development of The Times, people's thinking more and more open, when we open our doors, foreign thoughts also influence we of this generation. "Pursuit ego", "be kind to yourself", "enjoy life" words become the mainstream ideology in our mind. We will actively pursue their love, to pursue their own happiness. At the same time, when to his marriage not content, this generation will say "divorce" 2 words, never keep a "barely happiness".
Horizontal: in one generation, introverted or their own conditions limited (appearance, money, family circumstances, etc) people to accept the probability of "introduction marriage". And the outgoing or their own conditions of superior pursue "love marriage" likely to be big. The two types of people in the face of marriage at a red light, the former because of the character of the conservative or some real reasons, may be don't or wouldn't break now of the calm, they choose "to" the probability to big; The latter because of the character of the outgoing or superior conditions, he chose "back to" likely to be big.
This is the longitudinal and transverse comparison, through this comparison, we can see why arranged marriage than free love divorce rate to low, but which happiness? Marriage is not I the young unmarried people can say clear. Even if people in marriage, also may not be able to understand said. Different marriage, different feelings. And happiness with everyone in the standard, a standard, is a different result, also have no way to clarify. Marriage this university may use the entire lives to read!“据调查显示：包办婚姻比自由恋爱的婚姻的离婚率低的多，因此有人得出了-——包办婚姻比自由恋爱的婚姻的幸福程度高--这样的结论”。当时就觉得这个说法别扭，但是一直没有想它到底别扭在那里。今天由于某件事情，我突然想到了这个问题，明白了这个问题。
下面我们从纵向和横向两个方向来说明这个问题：
纵向：中国几千年的封建社会使中国人民的思想处在一个保守的状态，更多时候人们都不敢、不善于表达自己的想法、感情。我们的父辈也许在恋爱时连一句“我爱你”都没有说过。正是由于这种原因，即使他们的婚姻出现问题时，他们可能会选择“接受，沉默，隐忍”。想想中国第一起离婚案时引起的轰动，六七十年代离婚的人遭受的白眼，无数个命令式的劝说“我们家没有离婚的先例”，当时的人怎么敢提“离婚”二字。随着时代的发展，人们的思想越来越开放，当我们打开国门的时候，国外的思想也影响了我们这一代人。“追求自我”，“善待自我”，“享受生活”等词语成为我们着一代人的思想主流。我们会去主动追求自己的爱情，追求自己的幸福。同时，当对自己的婚姻不满意时，这一代人会说出“离婚”二字，决不会守着那份“勉强的幸福”。
横向：在同一代人中，性格内向或者自身条件所限（相貌，金钱，家境等）的人接受“介绍婚姻”的概率要大。而那些性格外向或自身条件优越的人追求“恋爱婚姻”的可能性要大。这两类人在面对婚姻中的红灯时，前者由于性格的保守或一些现实的原因，很可能不愿或不能打破现在的平静，他们选择“坚持”的概率要大；后者由于性格的外向或优越的条件，他选择“重新来过”的可能性要大。
这是纵向和横向的比较，通过这样的比较，我们可以看到为什么包办婚姻比自由恋爱的离婚率要低，但是哪个幸福呢？婚姻不是我这种年轻的未婚人士能说的清楚的。即使是以婚人士，也未必能说明白。不同的婚姻，不同的感受。而且幸福在与每个人的标准，标准不一样，就有不一样的结果，同样也没有办法说清楚。婚姻这所大学也许人要用一生才能读完！
参考资料：心理网